One of my many problems is life is that my LDS FAQ page on Love, Dating, and Marriage comes in at #1 on Google for search times like “Mormon dating,” “Mormon marriage,” and “Mormon love” (sorry – it’s only #2 for “Mormon sex”). And that means that whenever somebody gets a crush on a Mormon, falls in love with a Mormon, or considers marrying a Mormon, they are likely to find my site – and, sadly, likely to send me an email asking for advice. Apart from being a highly questionable source of advice on anything (see, dear critics, I’ve been listening!), I’m also out of time.
I really try to answer email, but it has become a flood. And the ones seeking advice on dating, marriage, love, and sex often are lengthy and very personal. There is the obligatory paragraph about how they met the person, then one on why the person is so wonderful (you Mormon singles really rock, let me tell you that!), another couple about what they have heard about Mormons, a few more about the concerns that have been raised by their parents or friends, some more on their own religious background, maybe a little on the weather and the presidential primaries and their struggles they are having with a diet or a difficult teacher (sometimes this optional section is skipped, thankfully), and then a series of questions seeking advice on three or four issues. These are important requests for help by real people at real turning points in their lives sometimes, and I would like to be able to help more but just can’t do that consistently.
So do we have a reliable “Dear Abby” service from a trusted source for people interested in relationships with Latter-day Saints? Anyone who would like to volunteer to handle some of these emails? When I can’t handle them, I’d like to just send them to someone who could do a good job, preferably someone with experience advising young people in the Church and beyond. They really do matter, but I can’t handle them all. Partly because it takes so long just to read them – they really are quite lengthy. But always interesting and almost always sincere.